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Thanksgiving Day Reflection

November 24, 2005

A well known hadith narrated by Jahmah (may God be pleased with him)
comes from the narrator asking the Prophet (salallahu `alayhi wa
sallam) for permission to go on a military expedition with him. The
Prophet asked him if he had a mother, and Jahmah replied that he did,
to which the Prophet eloquently stated, “Stay with her because Paradise
lies beneath her feet.”

And this of course is why we’ve been told since childhood to respect and love our mothers since Paradise lies under their feet.

Oh, but it gets better… much better.

Mawlana Aziz (may God protect him) recounted what the classical
scholars had to say on the matter. It is said that when one considers
that Paradise is under the feet of one’s mother–which is the lowest
part of her body–it raises another interesting question. That is to
say that if under her lowest part lies Jannah, what lies in her face,
which is the highest part of her body? And since the analogy must hold
true, something greater must be found in her face… but what can be
greater than Paradise, one may ask? As an answer to this, it is said
that the only thing greater than Paradise is the actual Pleasure (ridwan)
of Allah. Hence, her face metaphorically represents the Pleasure of
Allah; just as her feet are a sign (ishaarah) towards Jannah, her
face is a sign towards the Pleasure of Allah.

In other words, we’re given certain things in this world as a blessing
but also as a sign towards their true state and enjoyment in the next
world–things such as milk, cold water, delicious food, etc. all fit
under this rubric. Now, it’s pretty safe to say that there’s no greater
sight or feeling in this world than seeing happiness and contentment on
the face of one’s mother. And when one sees one’s mother in such a
state, it certainly is the greatest feeling possible in the world…
but perhaps more importantly, this is also a sign towards the greatest
feeling possible in the next world–the actual Pleasure of Allah.

I think that on a day like this, amongst I’m other things, I’m most
thankful for Allah blessing me with a mother. People laugh at me that
I’m 24 and still live at home and ask me why don’t I move out. Fools,
moving out and being on your own is overrated, living with your mom is
underrated… it’s one of the greatest blessings of the world
.
How else can you see a glimpse of the pleasure of God everyday? Because
of that, on a day like today, I feel grateful. Certainly, we’ve been
religiously mandated to show gratitude to God and His Creation every
single day of our lives instead of once a year. But perhaps there is
some benefit in reflecting a little bit more, since the concept of
gratitude is on the minds of the masses today. When one reflects on all
of God’s blessings, one feels overwhelmed and inadequate to even show
proper thanks verbally–let alone the steps beyond it. This is why it
is said that even the Tasbeeh of Fatimah, with its specifically
arranged Subhanallah, Alhamdulillah, and Allahu Akbar,
captures this essence of not being able to show gratitude. This is
because the first part attempts to praise Allah, and then one realizes
he is unable to do that fully so he moves to the second part, which
attempts to glorify God… yet, he realizes that he’s not able to fully
do that, leaving him resigned to declare Allahu Akbar (which is short for Allahu akbaru min kulli shay’in – God is greater (not greatest as some have translated it…) than every thing) as indication of this inadequecy.

The beauty and simplicity of all this is that perhaps the simplest way
to show gratitude to Allah is to make one’s mother content and pleased.
Not only does she light up with joy (and internally lights you up when
you see her in that state), but it also gives one an
opportunity–despite one’s insignificance–to witness a glimpse of the
greatest of all things: the Pleasure of God Himself.

Subhanallah.

Alhamdulillah.

Sigh… Allahu akbar.

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26 Comments
  1. i liiiike it

  2. incredible.sweet.

  3. MashAllah
    1 prop to Mawlana Aziz
    1 prop to mothers across the world
    But I still love you KR

  4. i liiiike it too…quite an excellent post mash’Allahbut i was told last year by the imam of our masjid down in urbana that the hadith about Jannah being underneath the feet of our mother is a falsified hadith, and that the Prophet (saaws) never actually said that…the imam gave some reasoning behind why he said that it was falsified, but i couldn’t really understand the actual reasoning…but the imam did go on to further say that it is a good to follow these principles because we should definitely respect our mothers and care for them and live up to it as if jannah is underneath their feetnow, i didn’t actually accept what he said really because I have ALWAYS heard that Rasulullah (saaws) has said this, but I haven’t pushed his claim aside either…ever since then i’ve been trying to find out whether his statements about it being a falsified hadith actually holds water or not..if anyone can please clarify this matter or even show me where there is solid proof of the hadith then i can ease my mind about it a little…i don’t want to reject anything without proof, for the time being i still believe that the hadith is sahih, and always i’m going to try to live up to its principles, but some clarification would be nice about the issue

  5. Anonymous permalink

    lol mash’Allah kr ur getting more and more points with all the sisters out there….you tricky boy…
    hmmm im thinking about giving you one prop cuz aren’t you the one who keeps riding me about being “whipped” by my ama because i cant go out after maghrib….hmmmmmmmm?
    you’re a jerk…but i love you…you still owe me lunch by the way
    nigger-ul-haq

  6. Anonymous permalink

    Masha Allah…I never thought of it that way.

  7. MashahAllah, brother, MashahAllah….

  8. Anonymous permalink

    Asalaamwalaikum Wa Rahmatulahi Wa Barakatuhu,
    Subhanallah, it’s soo true.. nothing is better than earning the pleasure of your mother and your father, for jannah lies beneath her feet and the pleasure of your Lord lies with your father…. EVERYDAY should be a thanksgiving day for our parents… soo many countless things they have given us.. one of the BIGGEST blessings is our presence in this duniya… man i gotta give you props… for writing such a deep and well thought post! Mashallah, EXCELLENT pOst!
    Waliakumsalaam wa rahmatulahi wa barakatuhu,
    Talibatulilm

  9. Good post, though your title is somewhat misleading….I really like the mothers face analogy, I never thought of that before…

  10. Mash`Allah, such an insightful entry. It’s great that you’re not ashamed of living at home; indeed, that is underrated nowadays. JazakAllahu khair for the enlightenment on Liberals versus Conservatives by the way.
    Assalamu alaikum~

  11. Anonymous permalink

    Who got beef with you living with your mom? Beat up those punks. You just standing up for what you believe in. Props. …I think you did the right thing speaking about the mothers. People do not recognize what a luxury it is to be living in the house with the moms and pops. Many do not recognize how ephemeral the existence of a human is, and that time spent with the P-Unit (Parental-unit, lol) should be time valued and not taken for granted. Especially girls should recognize this. Desi females (or perhaps all Muslim females in general?) do not have the luxury of living in an uxorilocal (anthropological term for societies where grooms move in with the bride’s family after marriage)society. We are always expected to be the ones moving away from the P-Unit after our weddings. It’s not necessarily true all of the time, sometimes a guy will be ready to depart from the P-Unit’s dwelling, but it’s almost always the girl who goes to live with the in-laws. This is how I came to understand the concept of marriage when I was seven or eight years old; parents decide to send you away to live at someone else’s place. Unfortunately, that perception has not changed too much for me.

  12. Anonymous permalink

    Who got beef with you living with your mom? Beat up those punks. You just standing up for what you believe in. Props. …I think you did the right thing speaking about the mothers. People do not recognize what a luxury it is to be living in the house with the moms and pops. Many do not recognize how ephemeral the existence of a human is, and that time spent with the P-Unit (Parental-unit, lol) should be time valued and not taken for granted. Especially girls should recognize this. Desi females (or perhaps all Muslim females in general?) do not have the luxury of living in an uxorilocal (anthropological term for societies where grooms move in with the bride’s family after marriage)society. We are always expected to be the ones moving away from the P-Unit after our weddings. It’s not necessarily true all of the time, sometimes a guy will be ready to depart from the P-Unit’s dwelling, but it’s almost always the girl who goes to live with the in-laws. This is how I came to understand the concept of marriage when I was seven or eight years old; parents decide to send you away to live at someone else’s place. Unfortunately, that perception has not changed too much for me.

  13. Anonymous permalink

    ahh, sorry for posting twice. You can delete one of those comments. And this comment as well, if you want, so no one can know of my blunder!

  14. thas a hot post mA. plus it was short, yay. so that prolly makes it more like a hottttttt post. good work. God bless you and your mama. peace,IJB

  15. hey there hydroaviator and all,
    touqeer asked about the hadith references so here they are, and inshallah a little explanation of the confusion:
    There is a hadith which is commonly quoted as: “Paradise lies under the feet of mothers.” The hadith with this wording IS da’if, but its meaning is contained in the hadith of Ibn Majah and al-Nasa’i that a man came to the Prophet (may Allah bless him and grant him peace) and said, “O Messenger of Allah!  I intend to go on a (military) expedition, but I have come to ask your advice.” He said, “Is your mother alive?” He said, “Yes.” He said, “Then stay with her, for the Garden is under her feet.” This latter hadith is declared to be sahih by al-Hakim, al-Dhahabi and al-Mundhiri.
    References and version with the name of the man himself from Tirmidhi:
    [ Transmitted by Al-Nisaai, 6/11; Ibn Majah, 1/278 and Al-Hakim. It is amended and approved by Al-Dhahaby, 4/151, on the authority of Muaaweya Ibn Jammah.]
    Al-Tirmidhi Hadith 4939:
    Narrated by Mu’awiyah ibn JahimahJahimah came to the Prophet (peace be upon him) and said, “Messenger of Allah, I desire to go on a military expedition and I have come to consult you.  He asked him if he had a mother, and when he replied that he had, he said, “Stay with her, for Paradise is at her feet.”  Ahmad, Nasa’i and Bayhaqi, in Shu’ab al-Iman, transmitted it.
    so theeeeere ya go! now go wash the dishes in the sink for your ammis boys and girls!
    ws
    abdul s.a., believer2

  16. Good call KamKam.  Living with mama is so underrated.  I got a taste of it m1 year.  It was sad, pathetic and lonely because first year, what did we do but study?  I’m the only child, might as well stay at home and bask in the parental love.  And hot and tasty food that is already prepared is another perk.   

  17. the qi zhong stadium is pretty awesome and i have no hope of every seeing it, but whatever.and goodness kr, already 24 and still living with your parents, man you got no life.and overall very insightful post…besides the fact that it’s thanksgiving and not mother’s day, not that everyday shouldn’t be mother’s day, but still….

  18. i think i heard this somewhere on friday…hehe! very nice post!

  19. Anonymous permalink

    I haven’t ceded my apprenticeship — great explication though

  20. insightful….especially that point by Maulana Aziz

  21. Anonymous permalink

    wow…i really liked this post…

  22. 0 props to kr, 1 for my mom, 1 for his…

  23. 1 eprop for kr1 eprop for kr’s cousin’s explanation.

  24. TWO props for kr for insightful and thorough posts. Word to your mother.

  25. Short post = Good post

  26. Anonymous permalink

    this post is not right. it’s seems so plain w/out a pic of ur mom.

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